“Too many disappointments are usually a sign of too many expectations.”
We all know the basic reasons behind depression. But have we ever thought that high expectation can lead us to the very thing too? Perhaps, most of the people knew but just a few weeks back when I was reading some articles that is when I came across this finding.
Well, being a social animal we have been granted the attachment quality that during most of the time turns out to be a disaster. Moreover, with attachment comes expectation, which is likely. Once we are close with a person, every step the relation takes; a small deck of hope is added on the shelves. Slowly with time it keeps adding up and whenever one gets fulfilled, like a bonus more wishes and likeable things are added. And we all know the saying,” Too much of anything is harmful.” These slowly adding of hopes and belief that the other person would/might do these or that things for me creates a bubble of temporary happiness which leads to bigger disaster. The bubble is burst when things don’t go as we expected it to.
Relationship and career growth these days are few of the examples. Most of the relationship comes under the wheel of expectation as both the partners have list of things that they wished happen. But like water being added to a plant the wishes keep expanding. This reason leads to disappointment. On the other hand, the career planning or the career growth that one person has brainstormed on their head stresses them out to another limit. Every person doesn’t end up being what he dreamt when they were a kid. Sometime it takes time while sometime something better is waiting. But things’ not falling into place frustrates and leads to a major illness called depression.
Depression, according to the World Health Organization (WHO), is the most common illness worldwide and the leading cause of disability. They estimate that 350 million people are affected by depression, globally. Depression adversely affects how you think, how you act and how you feel in a negative manner. The symptoms are sadness; low of interest in things you loved doing the most, irritability, hopelessness and feeling of worthlessness.
When series of things don’t go as planned, people start to question oneself if they are worthy or not. The constant interrogation by oneself to oneself digs in hopelessness, irritability and negative realization in everything. Slowly, you start doubting and all we see is universe conspiring against us. Living within the self hatred cloud we fail to see our own worth as we constantly try to define it on others perspective.
Out if 10 things you expected 9 will be fulfilled while the one that didn’t make it keeps haunting our head. In the same manner, other ones get added and there is this huge mountain that pushes you down. We focus on those one and ignore the millions that bloomed. We all know that it is in our best interest to stop what harms us. However, we keep flipping to find ways to make it work. That is precisely how we end up into frustration and depression.
We stop believing in ourselves and doubt our worthiness. People fail. They do. Every great thing weren’t successful in first attempt. The first is to make up your mind about not having high expectation on people or oneself. Start giving your best and the better will always come your way. Believe that you’ll do it and start saying “I can.” Be your knight save yourself from drowning in the sea of disappointment because you’re precious.