Let’s start from this – There is a huge line between wishing for something and readily acquiring it. No one, I repeat no one is ready for anything until the belief system in the person agrees to the idea of acquiring it. If the mindset isn’t ready, acquiring anything would be as lame as not acquiring it. I sum up my article in this very beginning by some lines from Jessie B. Rittenhouse,
“I bargained with life for a penny,
And life would pay no more,
However, I begged at evening
When I counted my scanty store.”
“For life is a just employer,
He gives you what you ask,
But once you have set the wages,
Why, you must bear the task.”
This is our problem; the problem of unacceptability. The problem of susceptibility against change- the problem of wanting but not being ready for a change.We dream. No doubts we dream. We are dreamers, but we dream what is already being lived by others. Nothing wrong in that I agree, but again, that is the point where we decelerate. I won’t have to deliver the instances of how dreams of Lincoln ended slavery and how Marconi’s dream brought this opportunity to you to follow my stupid write-up. I repeat here is how we are different. We dream lifestyles and country, not ideas. The World has shown a willingness to reward the dreamer who gives the world a new idea, and I wouldn’t have to prove it.
We fail to realize our own potential, and the power we have within us. By us, I am referring to you and me, the commoners, lost within ‘over the top’ clicks of coffee and cafés in the feed of Instagram. We are totally lost within the idea of ‘modernization’ whose definition, most probably we’ve confused with ‘westernization.’
We want to live that picture perfect life, which we’ve painted wrong.
There’s a difference in modernization and westernization. We have confused modernization for westernization in our part of the world. We want results without works- we want our picture in front of that lavish two wheelers in our profile, no matter what, and what we fail to understand is our work and lifestyle isn’t ready for that vehicle. We want the picture of fancy restaurants in our profile every weekend and fail to realize how we cannot adopt that very lifestyle with ease for far more coming years.
Let me get back to my very first point for a moment- the idea of acquiring things at the very right moment. I might sound crazy here, but we weren’t ready for what we’ve now, at least not at this huge pace.
What we too fail to realize is how we can be modern in our own ways.
When organic is new ‘modern’ we are finally opting for old canned and packed ‘western’. When yoga is the new cool, we are just crawling over for regular gym workouts. When the world is rotating back to easternization for modernization, we are crawling over to westernization. We want to be modern, at any cost, and we do not realize we aren’t ready for what we define is modern. There must be an understanding that copying culture isn’t simply modern- we ourselves can be modern if our culture is organized. Daura and Surwal can be new modern, not only those tees. Thakali khana set, and kalo chiyaa can, of course, replace those pizzas and cappuccinos on our insta feed.
Even if we fail to understand how we can be modern in our own ways (which of course we don’t have to be even ready for), we are not even able to accept the same modernization we define ourselves.
Love marriages are fancy there in other houses and movies but not in our families. Your picture in your profile with a bike is okay and his picture with a car is show off. Your girlfriend wearing shorts is okay but your brother’s wife wearing shorts makes her a slut. Watching‘FRIENDS’ changing sex partners every now and then and laughing is okay, but you need a virgin wife. You visit cafés and consider coffee modern, but fail to realize how you crave for tea if you haven’t had it for some days.
Yes, we want to change, we want to be modern. But we do not understand what being modern is, and we are not ready for our own definition of modernization.
Is there anything we can do?
Well maybe, Dream!
The Chief Cynic- Yugantar Paudel